Good Vibes 101

When’s the last time you sat down and thought about nothing? Like actually nothing… As in, listen to your breath and forget about what you should be doing, or that thing that happened yesterday. Have you ever actually taken the time to meditate? To feel yourself sitting in a chair with the energy and weight of the universe holding you in place, allowing your mind to feel the release from the everyday hustle.

For the past few weeks, I’ve been taking time out of my day to meditate.  I thought that starting rituals would increase my vibe for the day.  I wake up, drink my lemon/ginger tea, diffuse some oils, light the candle in my salt candle holder, and breathe.  This has done wonders for the way I approach my day.  But this morning was different.  I did all of the things I usually do, but my mood was guiding me toward something new.  I had the uncontrollable urge to throw on some vinyl and listed to music. After sifting through my box of records, I found the Fleetwood Mac album that I was gravitating toward.

As I started up the music, I had an equally irrepressible urge to let go and dance to the music; to feel Stevie Nicks’ voice radiating through my entire body.  It was liberating!

While my morning rituals do start me off with a good vibe for the day, I realized today that I had just been going through the motions.  I needed to deviate from my routine in order to find the breath of frankincense-filled air I was looking for.

Take some time out of your day to throw the proverbial wrench into your daily routine. Find something your soul is naturally gravitating toward and choose the path you wouldn’t normally take today. You never know what you’ll find.

What’s your problem?

There are times in my life where I have an experience that seems totally unrelated to anything of value, but then I later come to realize that there was a lesson there even if it was buried way deep down.  A few nights ago for example, I was laying in bed tossing and turning; trying to get comfortable when I realized that the wax melter in my room was bothering me.  It has a light bulb on the inside that happened to be shining right through the side hole and directly onto my closed eyelid- obviously causing a disturbance that it hadn’t before (it has been there for months; get over it, Me).  Anyways, I rolled over and stuffed my face into the pillow to shade myself from the beaming rays of lightbulb that had overcome me.  This clearly wasn’t the answer because I was now asking for a stiff neck in the morning, and/or suffocation from the pillow.  So I roll over, tired and grumpy at this point, and I throw my forearm over my eyes; again, in the market for a neck cramp with a side of shoulder pain.  Finally, after moments of discomfort and exhaustion from the day, I had had enough of the light. So I crawl out from underneath my heated blanket and soft sheets and turn the light off; knowing all along that it was the reason behind my brief fit of insomnia.

After that night, I thought about the problematic light and my wheels started to turn; why didn’t I just get off my butt and turn the dang light off to start with? — I knew it was the problem, and instead of turning it off and drifting off to slumber-land, I tried every other lackadaisical option I could think of in order to try and find a way around the real problem because I was just too lazy to address it directly.  This has been a theme of mine over the past few years; If there was a shortcut, I took it. If there was a way around it, I’d find it. Most of this came from having too much on my plate and I was trying so hard to get everything done that I ultimately ended up with a bunch of half attempts.  What I’m getting at is that if you have a problem (most of us can think of at least one) chances are there is an immediate answer to that problem, it just may not be the one we want to hear.  It might be too hard, or too far away, or causes us to leave our warm beds (aka the Comfort Zone), but the answer is almost always there staring us right in our closed eyes.

If you really want to address the problem you have, you’ll do it.  If your problem is that you need $100 for bills, you will make that money appear before the grace period ends- borrow it, sell that bag you spent way too much on and never carry, pick up a few extra hours at work– either way, you’ll make the money appear by addressing the problem directly even if it’s not exactly the way you wanted to do it.  If you hate your job, go find another one– I’ve done it! It is difficult, especially if you’re financially strapped (see example above), or if you really like the people you work with and you felt like THE WORST when you walked in to your super nice boss and told them you’re exploring other options.  Happiness doesn’t have an age limit, it’s never too late.  Everything is a puzzle that can be figured out if you get up and turn the light off already.

eat the yogurt.

About a year ago, I travelled to Chicago to meet up with my best bud and go to the Justin Bieber concert. We are nowhere close to being ashamed, nor should we be, that we were planning this for months.  We even tried to get #BrunchwithBiebs trending.  Needless to say, four retweets later, we drag ourselves, empty-bellied and Bieberless, to brunch and indulged in bottomless mimosas like nothing ever happened.  Regardless of our attempts to hang with Justin in Chicago, we were just as excited to see the show than we ever were.  We hopped in car and drove to the venue, stood in line for our $9 beers (because Biebs), and found our seats amongst our much younger co-fans.  After the opening performances were done, we anxiously awaited the main event.  And as we sat in the the middle of the scream-littered audience, beaming with excitement as the strobe lights turned on and the fog machines warmed up, we could not imagine anything better in that moment.

At the exact second Justin’s backup dancers started their show and the music blasted the beginning chords of the song everyone actually knew all of the words to began, I looked around me; drinking in not only my beer, but the experience we had been waiting for for months! The music, the dancing, the Beibs! How could it get any better??

And then I looked to the woman next to me; She was probably in her 30’s, a few years older than us.  Amidst the screaming and jumping that surrounded her, she was seated in her chair, legs crossed, phone in hand, eating yogurt. My only thought was “What?? Justin Bieber is right there! RIGHT THERE! Jumping and singing and dancing! And you’re eating yogurt…”  I could not wrap my head around the fact that I physically nor mentally could fit one more ounce of excitement or joy into my being right now and all this lady cares about is whether or not her yogurt had enough granola.

For months, I was baffled every time I thought about that woman.  But since then I have found myself in situations where everyone around me was ‘in your face’ excited about something and I was the one sitting there, smiling politely, eating my yogurt.  The point is, don’t bring people down because of their level of excitement.  If something is really in your heart and has you beaming, you should be excited about it! How many things actually bring that genuine happiness? Drink it all in! Don’t think that other people are purposely trying to bring you down because that’s not always the case. And if you’re the one eating yogurt, that’s okay too! Sometimes yogurt is really good actually and it could be the best thing in that moment because you were looking forward to it all day.

We should be celebrating the excitement of others, even if it doesn’t emanate from within our own hearts.




A Day in the Life of an Office Worker

  • Well, I don’t feel that tired; maybe today will go by quickly.

    *10 Minutes Later**

  • Maybe not..
  • At least the coffee is free.
  • Crap. There’s only enough left for one more cup… I don’t want to have to make a new pot.
  • I’ll just get some water.
  • At least I have a lot of work to keep me busy.
  • Now I have to pee…
  • Okay. That’s better.
  • Might as well fill my water while I’m up.
  • Why am I so thirsty?
  • I forgot chapstick…
  • What if everyone thinks that I have chronic dry lips?!
  • Maybe I should let them know… but be subtle.
  • “I can’t believe that I forgot chapstick! Worst thing ever! Right?!”
  • “SHHHHH”
  • “Oops. Sorry…”
  • Is it too early for lunch?

    **9:05 am**

  • Maybe I’ll just have a snack…
  • Let’s see what’s in the vending machine.
  • I should at least try to be healthy.
  • Screw it.  I’m getting chips.
  • 90 cents? I can swing that.
  • What happened?!
  • Where are my chips?!
  • You $%#%$!@!!!  You ate my chips! Stupid machine…
  • I didn’t want chips anyways.
  • I have to pee again.
  • Excuse me ma’am, didn’t you see my feet under the door?
  • Now isn’t the time to fix your hair.
  • Don’t you know it’s common courtesy not to linger in the bathroom when someone else is in there?
  • Can’t I just have one minute to myself? DAMN!
  • Now maybe I can finally get some work done.  Some people are just so inconsiderate.
  • Wow, it’s already… oh.. 10:31.
  • Maybe listening to music will make the time go faster.
  • Hmm… OH YEAH! Journey! This is my JAM!
  • Are my headphones plugged in all the way?
  • Yeah. Okay good.
  • Wait, they are plugged in, right?
  • Okay. Good.
  • Is this too loud? Can they still hear it?
  • No. I don’t think.. No. I’m good.
  • What’s that? Your daughter is selling what?
  • Girl Scout Cookies?
  • OF COURSE I’ll buy some of the leftovers.
  • ha ha! Oh, trefoils? yeah. those are fine.
  • Yeah, I have no idea why you would only have those left either. That’s weird.
  • There isn’t any chocolate on them of anything.
  • Or any real flavor at all for that matter.
  • Thanks so much!
  • What are you rambling about over there?
  • OH. The vending machine gave you TWO bags of chips?
  • That’s weird.
  • Good for you…